by admin | Feb 24, 2022 | Simple Self Help
So many people walk around with their heads down and their hearts heavy as they go through life. Either they feel that life has been bad to them or they know that they have been hurt by someone else or by a circumstance and cannot bring themselves to let go of these negative feelings inside. I seem to bump into them often and smile at the opportunity that this presents.
To carry around a hatred or a desire to get even with someone will only hasten your own demise and cause you untold physical as well as emotional damage. Each day that passes with you harboring ill-feeling or worse towards someone only hurts you. Why? Because the other person might not even know or remember what they did that caused you to feel so much bad energy. And even worse - because you have never expressed how strongly you feel about whatever happened or about what was said, they might be having a great time in their own life completely oblivious to your own confusion, anger and grief.
In the wonderful film The Shawshank Redemption a prison inmate says to his friend that they have a choice about the way they (and therefore you and I) respond to life and the challenges it puts in front of you. He says "You either get busy living or you get busy dying."
Take a quiet moment, or a quiet day, to be clear about the benefits you are receiving by hanging onto the pain and anger of not forgiving someone their behavior against you. You might even write them a note, explaining how you feel, how you have believed yourself to have been wronged, and that you wish to move on with your life now and be free to receive more joy and pleasure.
You may be relieved to hear that you don't need to actually send them the letter or note! Besides, you probably don't even know where they live nowadays as you have been hanging on to this pain for so long. You can put just their first name on it and actually mail it, knowing it can never be delivered. Or you could set fire to it by candle and watch the letter turn to ashes on a plate, or even throw the letter in a fast flowing river and watch it be carried away. Whichever way you choose to do it, and in whatever place you go through this simple yet powerful ritual, you are making a decision to let go and to forgive.
This process of forgiveness and letting go works just as well for you where you have done things you wish you had never done and still carry around the thoughts associated with that. Let go of the pain and get on with your life.
Let it all go ...Let it go now ...Release it ...
Forgive all the people who you once thought had wronged you or harmed you in some way. Forgive those who you loved and where that love either died or turned into something less. Forgive those from whom or around whom you have felt jealousy, shame, anger, fear and pain of any kind.
Do this regardless of whether it seems logically the right thing to do. Your heart is not logical. You are not even logical yourself. Simply understand that if you are holding onto some sense of having been wronged, hurt or mislead or deceived in the past, that just your thinking about this is reducing your ability and space to experience well-being, happiness and bliss right now in this moment.
No person and no experience that is from your past should have that hold over your enjoyment and your choice to have and to create your best life in this instant. Let it go. Let it go now. Just release it all.
Be present in the moment and realize all the good that you have and all the good that you are.
by admin | Feb 20, 2022 | Simple Self Help
Is it all in the mind? Could it really be the case that the way you think about the flow of money and support and resources coming to you, will either create more or less flow in your life?
Consider this. If life gives you largely what you expect or what you ask for, are you asking for the right things? Are you being clear with yourself about what you picture in your life?
Be totally conscious about what you want to see around you. Ask for those things you seek.
One of the strangest and yet simplest rules of life is that you will attract and manifest whatever it is that you think about and focus upon. With this being the case, clarify your thinking and ask for what you want.
The universe will support you in the achievement of your goals.
Some commentators refer to this process as Cosmic Ordering, being clear on what you want and making a request for it, almost as though you were walking around a department store filled with the choicest of goods and placing your order.
Maintaining a Prosperity Consciousness involves you being clear about what you want, and I also think it helps enormously to picture in detail the results you seek to create and to manifest.
Build strong mental pictures of the lifestyle you seek to create, of the relationships you want to draw to you, of the environment you want to work in and to live in. The greater the detail that you can picture of these circumstances you are choosing to attract, the greater the likelihood of successfully creating the reality that will be a reflection of your mental picturing.
Expectation plays a big part here also. Expect the right things to happen. Anticipate the results you have asked for coming to you and providing you with all that you require for your life to work and be in harmony with your desires.
Create a mental picture of what it is that you seek to have and to attract, then let go of any attachment to the outcome. The Universe will work to follow your instructions so be precise in describing what you want, and thoughtful in the way you detail it.
Above all Prosperity Consciousness is about having the right frame of mind, and the mental energy in a positive place without distraction. This will provide you with what you need to have in order to fulfil your own mission for a life well lived.
by admin | Feb 17, 2022 | Declutter
Email stress. Social media addiction. Alerts, alarms and reminders to do more and to do it now. In our current state of digital connection and constant online access there is always a temptation, a distraction away from the core values we once driven by. There was a time, quite recently, when we as humans didn't have mobile phones and the quality of life was different because we could not be reached so easily and we could not pry on others in the same way we can now with the phone in our hand. Now that we have the technology that brings such opportunity, it's also worth adopting some new behaviours and approaches to reduce the stress.
How many times this week have you sat with your laptop or device and figured you would go online for ten minutes before getting busy with a an important task? Once you had logged on, how quickly did you move to the main job that needed your attention? You and I both know the answer! Social media is a leech on your productivity unless it is your paid job.
Apparently, we can check our mobile phone as much as 150 times in a day! This week I read an article which claimed we spend an average of two hours and forty minutes scrolling through social media in a day! Are you above average?
If you are struggling with the digital pressure on you, then it's time to take practical steps to simplify your connection to the problem and give you back the control.
In looking at digital clutter and the overload it brings, I want to to take you to your tech equipment and look at the games, software and apps which eat at your available time. How many games have you got on your cell phone that you never play? Remove the apps completely and free up storage. What about financial apps that you used a few times before forgetting or ignoring months ago? Delete them right now.
Here are five simple questions to help yourself:
- How much time with a cell phone or device in your hand is enough?
- How are you suffering or struggling with digital overload?
- What would you rather be doing if you were not constantly online?
- What limits can you place around your online time?
- How can you let others know about the limited you are placing on your online availability?
By treating your online activity and social media in particular in the same way you would any other addiction, you will find that you can increase your mental health, reduce stress, lower your anxiety and take back lost hours for things that you can get a better return from.
So many of the activities we love and enjoy are good and bring us benefits. We just have to be mindful that we don't overdose on them. Social media is no different.
Can you connect with a couple of friends each week with an actual phone call or a cup of coffee by meeting in a real place? What would that take? Some checking of your diary, a call or text and you both turn up.
How about speaking by phone with a few other friends or family members who don't live close by? What actions does that need? You've guessed it, the same ones. You check your diary and you arrange a time to catch up on the phone.
You want to take part in a social club or sport group that you joined areas ago and which you have dropped out of. Maybe you enjoyed swimming, or running or being in a language group or a book club. What actions do you need to take to get back in touch and get involved again? You must know the answer by now? You check your diary and you book yourself in for the activity and pick up where you left off.
Social media addiction is the opposite of this. It is time spent in an unconscious state where you wander from screen to screen, story to story, comment to comment until you wake up to realise that you have lost an hour of your life, or two or three.
If you want to get over your digital addictions then you have to start doing some things which are not about gaining approval, or attracting comments and likes. Instead you need to make time for yourself and commit to those activities and actions which make you who you are. These will be the clubs, hobbies, events, fan groups, learning opportunities and activities that stretch you, reward you, make you feel good because they are a reflection of who you are at your best.
You want to get over your digital addiction? Put down your cell phone. Fall in love with you at your best and give yourself the time you deserve to just be you.
by admin | Feb 13, 2022 | Simple Self Help
You never know when you cross paths with someone else quite how much, in that instant, they need to feel your love. You may wander around thinking that your own life could be better, about how nice it would be to get a break now and then, or what if it just worked out right for yours truly, but think about the needs of someone else.
Today, tonight, tomorrow morning, or next month. It scarcely matters. Someone is out there crying out in pain or desperately in need of some love, some kindness, someone who will listen to them. Maybe they just need some belief, some encouragement and some contact. You might just well be the person to provide it for them right there and right now. In a wonderful twist of irony the more you give love the more you will receive love yourself. But that need not be a motivation for you to give and to share your love.
When an opportunity comes around, take it, live through the moment and give what you know you should.
Don't hold back, either for fear of being no good, or for doubt that what you have may not be enough. Give of yourself and do not judge the process. Be free in the moment to allow yourself to release the good you have and the good that you are.
Life will ask you to share your love sometimes when it might seem unclear to you why. At other times life will place you in a moment where it is obvious that you are there either to give or to receive love and you will simply know what is to be done.
The excellent and thought provoking Course in Miracles makes the beautiful statement that "...there only two emotions: Love and Fear."
With this being so, then by giving love you create a place where what you give is magnified and the love you choose to place your focus on will come back to you multiplied.
The same is equally true of fear. But to spend more time in a state of fear and to receive the magnification of that same fear decreases the scope and the opportunity for you to receive love and its associated benefits. When you sense fear share your love. When you notice fear in yourself switch to noticing the feeling and the sensation of love and you will see the fear subside and leave.
There is no limit to love, or a cup of it that does not overrun when needed. Love is always present and around you, ever seeking you, ever available to you to draw from. Understand this to be so.
In the moment that you choose love it creates not only more love for you, but also opens doors that no amount of logical words or persuasive argument would ever have scope of undoing.
Focus on love and share it with total confidence that love is always both the highest option and the only real way to be in any given moment or situation.
by admin | Feb 10, 2022 | Declutter
Much of what we recognise as mess are the large physical items that we can see the need to let go of. Financial clutter is less obvious to the eye and something that shows up perhaps in a series of folders, or envelopes that have been opened and perhaps not worked through. Often our actual banking arrangements can be without order and difficult to navigate.
How many bank accounts do you have versus how many do you use regularly?
What level of service do you receive from your bank as opposed to the service you would prefer?
How many dormant savings accounts or money passbooks do you have around the house?
Are all your paper bank statements in one place and easy to access in just five minutes?
As you look at the way you manage and monitor your finances ask yourself whether you could do this better and find the information you need faster than the time it currently takes you to locate the statements, dividends, savings records, pension information and tax payment records. The chances are high that you don't keep all your financial information in one place, that as new paperwork comes in to your home it does not systematically end up in the same place that you keep and store your financial records. This is simple to change, and requires only that you become conscious of it. Resolve this quickly and simply by keeping all financial records, statements and passbooks in the same location in your home.
What about the files, binders and unopened Financial Post that is stashed around your home and taking up useful shelf space or occupying the cupboard under the stairs? Get these all out and in one session go through them. If you have any papers that are more than a year old shred and dispose of them. A small shredder for your home will occupy far less space than the volume of unneeded statements, letters, documents and general papers that are taking up space in your life and adding to the stagnant energy. If you run a business from home you will need to check with your Tax or Revenue office about the timescale for keeping all financial transaction records, and comply with these requirements. In many cases keeping the detail for the past twelve months and good annual summaries for the previous five to seven years is more than adequate for you and allows for a lot of discarding.
So many Phone records, Bank statements, Insurance documents, Mortgage summaries and payment records can be accessed online and pulled down in Document or PDF format when needed. Review all your accounts and look at the options for switching to digital only records. This not only saves space but can also save you dozens of hours over the course of a year where you no longer have to open, sort, file and store paper that comes in to your physical mailbox.
Stay up to date with Financial Apps that allow you to track your spending or monitor your investment monies easily and all from your phone or laptop. Have you looked at installing a Water Meter to your home so you only get billed for your actual use? How about asking your Energy Company for a free Smart Meter to monitor your home usage of gas and electric? With these installed you can actively manage the way you use energy in your home, often adjusting your behaviour simply because you become aware of the cost of your usage. It can be tiring to deal with the potential mountain of financial paperwork that comes in to your home. Take a moment to consider that no matter how many sources the paperwork comes from you can choose what to do with each letter or email.
In your personal finances deal with each monthly summary statement as it comes in, whether by paper or email. Check the expenditure against your own receipts. An easy way to do this is to take any purchase receipts from your purse or wallet on a certain day each week and put them in a place where you do your finances. If you don't have any specific filing area at home, each week take the expense receipts for that week and place them in an envelope. When your bank statement comes in simply check off the purchase receipts against the larger monthly statement. Everything should match. If you are self-employed and doing your own tax returns save each weekly envelope and date it for easy reference later. When the full tax year is done you can provide the bank statements and the receipts to your book-keeper and you keep your costs down because you have taken the time to be organised for the previous year of spending.
In becoming better organised with our finances we can get closer to our financial goals, precisely because we know what our money is doing and how it is performing. By getting clear on your financial paperwork, statements and information, you will naturally find yourself better able to make decisions about what to do with your assets so that they start to work for you, building your future wealth and financial freedom. The clearer you get with your finances the more likely it is that your money will work better for you.
