Look After The Love You Have
Neglect in relationships, just as in other precious matters, will see the tarnishing and then the loss of that which you once cared so much about.
You don't only experience love as a feeling, you also need to work at it as an action.
All too often we have something special and we stop working at it in the way we did when that same love first began. In the early days we nurtured it like the seed of something that was growing into a stronger and more beautiful thing. We cared for it with attention and forethought, acts of kindness and intentional consideration. Not surprisingly it grew to become something special between you both.
With a relationship that is special and which you want to be a part of, it can also become regular, steady and predictable. This does not happen intentionally on behalf of either party, but can happen with the demands of every day life and experiences.
Building an ever deeper relationship, or simply maintaining the honour and specialness of a loving relationship requires work, attention and energy, just like anything that is important to you. Just as you cannot expect to plant seeds in a field and wait idly for the harvest, so too is it not possible for you to expect a relationship to bloom and flourish without care and attention.
If you want to protect the love you have had and see it grow back to what it has been before, then spend time in doing the things that will allow it to get back to that place.
Put effort into creating afresh the experiences, the time together, the admiration and the longing that makes and gives love the special power and attraction that it holds for us.
Realise the special characteristics of the love you already have in this moment and take time to appreciate it, honour it and invest your own time in it. Plan special times, organize events and trips. Invest emotional time and energy in what will create mutual respect, understanding and ongoing love as you move forward together.