by admin | Jun 30, 2022 | Simple Self Help
At all times and in every situation you are drawing to you those things that happen around you. No exceptions! So if the life you have does not reflect the life you want then you really need to something about it and fast.
One sure way to step closer to the results you want, is to acknowledge what is going right for you, to identify and give thanks for the things that are working, for those areas where you are pleased and happy with what you have in the moment. The act of showing gratitude will cause more of the same to come to you.
Yet it is not all about what is right in your heart.
You also need to give attention, focus and energy to the practical and logical aspects of attracting the results you want. How are the parameters of your work defined? Who are the people you know can be of service and help to you in determining the outcomes that you want? Have you shared with them the detail of what you seek to bring about with their help? Aside from the people you know, who else might be out there in the wider community, who could be beneficial for you if only you could make contact with them?
Put some thought into describing the people and the physical resources and materials that will take you toward the results that you want. Consider the scope for you to tell people as you meet with them, about what you want to create.
Remember that the Universe will always give you what you ask for and that with this being the case you need to be clear that you are asking for what you want to receive. Only ask for that which you really want. The alternative is to ask for that which would be OK or acceptable or reasonable. The issue in this case would be that the Universe does not know which is truly great, or magnificent or fabulous. But you do know the difference and so you need to ask for the outcomes you want to see turn up in your life.
If you will just let it, then life will always seek to astound you with what it delivers up for you.
Create a Vision Board or a Treasure Map of what you want. From your favourite magazines, books and social posts clip the images and ideas that fill you with inspiration and motivation. The involvement of more of your senses will serve to accelerate the process of your attracting the good that you deserve. From the websites and catalogues that have products and offerings that you love, cut the images that mean something special to you. Pin or paste these onto your Treasure Map, placing the images in such a way that they call to you and encourage you in the pursuit of your goals.
Invest time and energy in being around the people who can lead the way for you or who can introduce you to others within their social or business networks. Build relationships and rapport with those people, and at the same time remember that the flow needs to be a two way thing benefiting others just as they benefit you.
Continue to believe in your own ability to create the results that you seek.
by admin | Jun 28, 2022 | Simple Self Help
Too much to do! Too little time in which to do it or too few resources with which to achieve it. Maybe even both!
If you are anxious about traveling to work, worried about your performance when you are there, distracted by worry at away from your family and loved ones, then face the stress head-on and be honest that you have it. It could be workload, financial pressure, relationship dissatisfaction, health matters. Any number of things have the potential to place you under pressure that is difficult or even impossible to cope with and to deal with.
You may feel tension in your mind or body. It could be that you are experiencing pressure upon your ability to lead a life that is satisfying. Being aware of the stress and being honest enough with yourself that it is there, is the first important step and then you can begin to take action to deal with it one piece at a time.
The other aspect of looking at stress is noting how it is affecting your wider life. I know that when I face more stress that I become irritable and poor company, that I can be grumpy and short tempered. More positively than this though, I know that if I let others know the pressure I am feeling and the way it is impacting me then they can understand. Once they are aware of this then they are free to help me, to participate in my own recovery from the downward spiral or simply to know to let me be and to allow me the space to start working through it!
One thing is certain. Until you are honest with yourself about the issues you face, you will find neither the time, resources or energy to deal with it and your situation will simply deteriorate. Take action now before the issues become more serious and require further external help and support.
Worry is a strange thing, part defense mechanism, part self-protection. It exists to keep us alert and to encourage us to stay sharp in case of danger that we think is lurking somewhere out in front of us. Yet too much worry, too great a focus on worry and that same behavior has converted itself into looking for trouble when it is not there; into dark imaginings that will render you permanently fearful and ever dreading that the worst is about to happen.
We both know that statistics and logic and probability mean that what you are worrying about is unlikely to come to pass, but in the act of worrying you don't help yourself at all. It is very much the case that what your mind focuses on is further enabled and given more presence.
To take a simple example, if you worry about meeting and paying your household bills on time, you can get yourself into such a state of concern that you will magnify the problem and begin to draw more bills to you in the process! You are an attractor and you draw to you the same energies that you send out into the Universe. With this example of bills, you can reduce your worry by agreeing to spend only a certain amount of your time thinking about the bills. Beyond this imagine and visualize instead the bills being paid on time and in full. See the "PAID WITH THANKS" stamp upon each of your bills. See the mail arriving at your house each day with a check in the mail, with online credits to your digital bank account. See refunds being issued to you. Do this instead of multiplying the worry factor.
Sure, this is a cute example and does nothing to allay your fear about the things that concern and worry you. But please help yourself some more by thinking about the external influences on your thinking and which may well be placing their own seeds of fear and doubt in your mind. The television and the radio news don't focus on providing you with positive and inspiring stories. Instead they report on negative actions that serve only to create more fear in your mind. As an experiment let yourself do a day without either watching or listening to the news items. You'll survive the day and after a week of this you will also begin to see a reduction in the thoughts and fears that have been affecting your well-being for the worse.
by admin | Jun 23, 2022 | Declutter
Enjoying your Downsize Life is all about getting to the place where you are self-sufficient. I don't mean that you need to be living off the land, growing your own vegetables and distilling rain water for your shower and teaching your kids at home rather than using a state school system! Not at all. What I am keen on is the idea that you can live in a house that meets all your needs for space and utility, that your work or paid employment is fulfilling, and that you have satisfaction and happiness in the physical environment you occupy.
Having enough to satisfy and meet these needs truly is all that you require. Having enough means you having sufficient resources. You can be a creative indie providing skills and services or products to your various clients. You could be a portfolio worker holding two or three separate roles which, when taken together, provide the finance that is enough to cover your bills for accommodation and food, for clothing, leisure time and future savings plans.
You may work in a secure job that you love or one in which you are uncomfortable and looking for a new role that provides greater fulfilment to your own values and sense of what you consider important and nurturing.
Possibly you are out of work and between jobs or in long term unemployment with little expectation of finding work again. In any one of these situations you are able to give thought and attention to how you live right now and whether there are aspects of it that you seek to adjust or adapt.
Enough is about being self-sufficient in whatever way works for you and your household. It is about being happy with how your life looks and works. Accepting the Enough is Enough mindset requires you to separate from what the adverts and the celebrity gossip columns suggest are important and to be admired, and to instead just consider what you want. Having enough for your needs is all you need. Ever.
In a modern, developed economy you are doing well if you have a financial surplus being saved each month. Apparently, more than 70% of working households would struggle to deal with something as simple as finding $750 - $1,000 for a surprise domestic bill, like the failure of the central heating boiler. If you can pay your bills and still have enough set aside for the inevitable surprise bill or incident where an extra $500 or $2,000 is needed, then you are in a good place. If you can do this and still have an enjoyable holiday a couple of times each year, you are way ahead of many people.
To get into an even more positive position, think about taking away completely or significantly reducing any of the workplace stress or political troubles that come with employment in a larger work place where there is always someone above you, telling you what to do and by when, or giving you tasks to do which seem ever more difficult to achieve. To remove yourself from that requires an extra financial move requiring a radical reassessment of your own cost of living and survival each month. Where you can make significant downward adjustments to your regular outgoings, you are creating more flexibility in what work you choose to do to earn money.
This lifestyle requires you to listen to your heart and hear what your feelings are telling you. Where you feel anguish, worry, upset or simple unease, there is a message for you and an idea to explore. If you open your post and constantly see bills that are just beyond your ability to settle in full, this is a wake-up call to think about your monthly cost of living and start to look at cutting those costs so that you can live within your means to pay those same bills next month.
If you have possessions you never use and where you have low emotional attachment to them, then they should be up for sale and gone. If you have a three bedroom house and have no need for regularly hosting visitors can you be better off in a home with just one less bedroom, but which still accommodates your needs for personal space and storage? Would such a move either save you money in significantly reduced rent or allow you some greater flexibility over your choice of work? If you own your home and sold it to move into a different space that you buy for less, can the surplus you create by moving house then be used to boost your savings and reduce any debts for good? If you work in a place where conflict between employees is difficult, the quality of management is low, or where the rate of pay is poor, you can use these factors as motivation to find employment that better suits you.
Think about the areas of your life where you feel unhappy, stressed, worried or dissatisfied and consider how you could make things different. The easiest way to determine if there is a need for change, is to ask yourself: "How am I coping?"
Listen to your mind and hear the honest answers that come out of this. So, how are you coping? What can you change today?
by admin | Jun 16, 2022 | Simple Self Help
Life is not necessarily always going to run along smoothly and there will understandably be times when you want to shout out loud "Stop the world. I want to get off." We have all been there at some point in our lives. Personally, I am a big believer that we are here to learn the things, to understand the concepts and to appreciate the belief systems that surround us. And the more I think about this the simpler it is to get the point that change happens and for a reason!
If you are in denial about change, if you regret that it ever happens, then you are simply saving more times of disappointment, more periods of frustration and anger, and yet also more moments of lost opportunity. Instead you could choose to realise that change is actually one of the few constants around us. Yes, this might sound bizarre - that "change is one of the few constants" but it is very much this way.
By acknowledging this change conversation you open yourself up to the possibility of greater opportunity, stronger experiences, less upheaval by not denying the whole subject and you will very likely also receive more of what you expect that is good and positive.
When a career stops short of the time that you had expected to be protected by it; when a business folds or requires you to stretch beyond your normal habits; when a relationship arrives seemingly from out of nowhere, how will you be prepared for it? Will you have thought through the potential outcomes and communicated this quickly to the place marked 'Beneficial Change' or will you instead be looking to the place marked 'Change for Changes Sake' or perhaps 'Change without obvious Benefit?'
Embrace change. Allow it to happen and then respond with what you need to do. It might be to ignore the change until the timing is better for you to understand it, but you have to see that it is happening to you and let that recognition carry you through to new and better circumstances that will follow just as day follows night.
by admin | Jun 15, 2022 | Simple Self Help
You only have twenty-four hours in a day. So you won't be able to fit in all the things you could do, and likewise you will struggle to spend time with everyone equally. Think hard about the value of some of the relationships you have relative to the amount of benefit you get from them and how you feel as a result of being around those people. Some will be friends, others relatives or work contacts.
Try to be a little more selective about how you give out the time in your calendar if you are only going to be more worn down as a result of having done so. As with the phrase "less is more" when it is applied to meaning that a bit of quality is better than a lot of mediocre items, I think often that the same phrase can be applied to your own appointment diary.
Let your mobile go to voicemail now and again. After all the reason you have that facility is so you don't have to answer the phone yourself every time! Let people know that you have time out for yourself now and again, or that you are with your family and will not be taking calls, or that you are visiting some friends and will get back to them when it suits you to do so.
Put your family first and ensure that there is some regular time each week when you get together, and create something special.
I recall how as a child, my parents always took me to the cinema on a Saturday morning or how we would often go out early on a Sunday morning to walk in the country park or along the riverbank. The memories of those film shows and my familiarity with the footpaths and lanes that I still visit regularly in my adult life have their roots in those familiar traditions which were deliberately created by our parents.
What was important to you as a child, as a teenager and as a young adult?
The chances are that your own feelings and memories of belonging or of having an adult be interested in your well-being is just as important to your own children. Take time to do the same for yours.
We all appreciate the way that someone clears their schedule to give us their time and attention, so if this is true from our own perspective, what must it be like to be able to give that time and energy to someone who will enjoy having you and holding your attention.
