Seriously! How are things with you? Feeling good about who you are and how you are in yourself? Yes? No? Maybe? Confused?
Welcome to the human race my friend! So often you might catch yourself during the day being concerned about the things in your life that seem to be unresolved, that cause you stress or worry and which you will rightly want to give some time to. The issue is that while so much is not dealt with it can indeed be difficult to even think of yourself, let alone to consider the relationship that you have with yourself.
Answer this question for yourself:
"Today I feel . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . ."
Fill in the gap with a stream of thoughts and allow yourself to notice the feelings as they come up for you. You may find this a potentially uncomfortable exercise to begin with as it is very unlikely you have deliberately given yourself time for yourself before. This is OK and totally natural. In quiet time for yourself you will be able to listen to you talking to yourself and hear what it is that you are carrying around with you all the time.
Allow yourself and your spirit the time to let these thoughts flow into the present. Listen to yourself without judgement and just accept what you hear your thoughts telling you. Let these ideas, thoughts, apologies, sadnesses, embarrassments, affirmations and statements of fact be shared with you just as they are. Let go of the need to filter or change them. Simply receive and accept them.
Knowing these thoughts now, give thanks that you are aware of them and consider the impact that such thoughts will have been having on you for as long as you have been holding them. At the very core of your relationship with all the people you come into contact with is this relationship that you have with yourself. Whether you are loving, hateful, caring, doubting or kind to yourself, there is a way that this fundamental relationship with yourself is carried out into the world with you.
Begin to explore the feelings and thoughts, the considerations and the emotions that come up for you in this quiet reflection time that you are engaging in today.
Do not be in judgement about what you see and hear in this conversation with yourself. Simply resolve to take the points you observe and make use of them in a gentle way and in a manner that with you allow you to come from the greater perception you now have of yourself, taking this into your daily experience.
Move forward from this place and determine to strengthen the relationship with yourself from knowledge of yourself.
You are an amazing person simply by being here in this moment. That you are here at all is a miracle of biology, nature, survival, determination and of the power and expression of love.
On those days when you might allow yourself a down moment (and we all have times like that), just consider the miracle of your being here at all and it might allay a few of your own doubts, fears and concerns and reveal them for the insecure moments they represent.
The relationship you have with yourself is the most important of all, for if you do not come from a place of love and respect for yourself, how then do you find love and give respect for another? If you already have a personal source of internal motivation and self-respect it becomes so much simpler for you to provide this to others. You do this through a sharing of a part of yourself, by revealing some aspect of who you are and what you stand for.
Of course, you get to that place through questioning yourself about who you are and who you have become so far in this journey we call life.
There is no need for you to now become quite so hyper-analytical that you are someone else.
Be easy on yourself and simply accept who you are and what you are here for. Perhaps not the simplest quest to find the answers to! There is great opportunity here for you and the act of having a great relationship with yourself can come from beginning to at least starting with your focus on a good relationship. You can improve the whole thing and move onwards and upwards from there!
Above all, be a source of your own love.