by admin | Sep 16, 2022 | Simple Self Help
When your heart is pounding with fear and your own sense of well-being is shot through with recent concerns, worries and disappointments, you have to a call a "Time Out!" If you find yourself ground down towards a physical and mental halt, then you have to say aloud that "Enough is enough!" and really mean it.
If you are not there for yourself then who else are you truly able to be there for?
When you find yourself sinking into the mire how can you possibly expect to be a firm foundation or a bedrock for someone who might need you and your support?
You have to stop doing what is no longer working for you. Say "no" to those activities or actions that drain and exhaust you. Stop associating with the people who draw the life force from you. If this sounds drastic, please face the alternative - allowing things to get worse and with your permission and agreement!
Think about those activities, social gatherings and relationships that literally 'take it out' of you. The 'it' is the energy, vibrancy, color, warmth and personality that is the true you. If you engage in activities that affect you less than positively you need to rethink your involvement in them.
And guess what? As you withdraw from such non-beneficial or even destructive things, you will feel stronger, enjoy more time for you, re-charge your life battery and see your circumstances reframed anew.
The more you do this for yourself, the sooner you will see a shift in what happens around you. Call a halt to the activities, interruptions, time wasters and resource drainers that serve you not at all. Strike them out of your diary and from your schedule wherever possible, replacing them with time for yourself, for your passions, your own sense of living your life on purpose.
Listen to your own inner mind, to the wisdom that is always close at hand for you. Ask your inner guide for assistance in finding the access to what is right for you. In a place of calm within you, step to the sounds and colors that attract you, nourishing you in this time of quiet.
This is your life and you can hold the reins and step towards your greatness. No need to apologize, to explain unless you want to, or to feel that you should give up any more of who you are. Make today your day and only allow into it those things that lift you and strengthen you.
by admin | Sep 11, 2022 | Declutter
Energy is the movement and vibration between molecules and atoms. It is the stimulation between people. It is the way that a particular piece of music fills a room but also the response it triggers in your brain and emotions as you pick up on the melody or tune in to receive the specific lyrics. You might choose the music when you have a meal with a friend. You would certainly be conscious of the music in your chosen playlist when you have friends around to celebrate a birthday or a special event. You are selecting the energy for the occasion.
Cherish your Special Things
In the same way you are bringing energy into your house with the possessions you bring in, with the art you place on the wall, with the fabrics that adorn your furniture. You think you feel good about a box of letters on a shelf in your study that were written to you by a grandparent or a best friend. You occasionally take out an school report that was written about you by a favourite teacher when you were a happy seven year old child and saw the whole world ahead of you. When you pull up a blanket on a chilly autumnal day and take comfort from knowing it has been made of pieces of fabrics that were once a childhood eiderdown, a grandmother's scarf and a service uniform belonging to a parent, this is good energy. When you look at old photos of a relative you never really liked, but which you feel awkward throwing out, whether for guilt or misguided loyalty, this is low energy that you don't need to hang on to. The colours, the textures and the emotions you attach to the things within every room of your home, all of this, either contributes to or takes away from the energy of your home.
Check your Digital Energy
If we ever doubted our connection to the world around us, or thought we were separate from the world and living in a bubble, then the great technology advances we have at out fingertips serves to prove the truth of this connectivity. Digital energy is a vast aspect of the energy in our homes. The movement of data, of the pulsing of electrons in and through our home space. We are constantly connected to the external world through our laptops and cell phones. That fast moving, invisible activity consists of data all around us.
The advantages are massive and such technology can help us live more positive lives, provide us with home delivery of millions of items (not so good when you are looking to let go of clutter!), make contact with friends who lives hundreds of miles away or across the globe, to bring access to jobs where we can find what will suit us, allow us to find a partner through dating apps, give us the edge for investment tips and know-how, or simply allow us to plan a holiday or a trip without the need to go into a travel shop for such information. All of these and a hundred other advantageous uses of technology and connectedness are good for us. But we have to guard against overload on ourselves. You must take care of the potential drain on your personal energy that such digital activities can have.
Why do you feel tired after an hour online just browsing and following digital connections through adverts or social networks, articles or video clips that entertain? Partly because of the huge variety of visual images you see in that hour, but also you feel tired because the energy is moving so fast through and around you. You can be too open to the draining impact of this frenzy. Give yourself times when you are not online, when you are not connected digitally. You can switch of wifi while you sleep. You can choose to leave your handset in another room when you are spending time with loved ones. You can switch off sound based notifications and limit the time you spend engaged with or sucked in to social media. They are forms of high speed energy and you need to choose whether they contribute to or take from your own levels of energy and aliveness.
Ask yourself some simple questions about how you use the spaces in your home and why :
Which area of the home do you feel happiest in?
Where is the emotional heart of the building?
When you have guests to visit do they move naturally to stand and chat in and around the kitchen or an open living area? Do they want to sit outside on the deck with you or gather around a sofa and comfy chairs?
Are there pictures on the walls of your home that you don't like, but have never let go of? Can you understand the emotions that are triggered or blocked when you consider these images?
When you are following a painting or drawing or collecting hobby at home, where do you notice yourself sitting?
by admin | Sep 7, 2022 | Simple Self Help
Many of us get locked into a routine of traveling to and from work in order to do something we dislike or even despise. We buy ourselves travel tickets or pick up transport costs in order to get to this place, where we are often surrounded by people we care little for, and produce output we may have no connection with or little pride in. There is so much more to life than this.
You know that you have talents. It is just that you are often the very last person on the planet who will acknowledge that you have them, cautious and in denial as you can sometimes be. Hobbies, intellectual skills, passionate interest, technical curiosity or just a willingness to learn a new skill set. It does not matter what the skill set or special ability is so much as you being willing to spot it and acknowledge it for what it is - the seed of new potential.
Consider that there are people making a living from every single possible profession and occupation, and many of them do very well. If in doubt pick up a commercial phone directory or look at a Local Pages website showing you the businesses in your own area. From Antiques to Zoology people are making a good living or a decent income for themselves in activities they enjoy.
Through the expression of ourselves in our work, we also find connection to others. Maybe you achieve this through your job networks, or perhaps though the people you meet via the place you work and the associations you can make indirectly.
And many of them don't go to a distant work place in order to be successful. Thousands of people in your area work from home doing something that pays its way. This may be via email, a web page, a mail-order operation, broking deals by telephone, or liaising between people wanting their skills. It does not matter what they do so much as it matters that they do something they are motivated by.
Identify your own skills and passions and look to create a revenue for yourself that you can build from home, or that you can sell with confidence to a prospective employer who would rather have excited and motivated people on their staff team.
In encouraging you to explore the enjoyment of your work, I also want you to get closer to that place of attaining financial freedom. This is the freedom that you have when you never omit doing something for lack of money and that you never do anything that you don't want simply to get the money that is being offered.
If I put this another way, financial and emotional freedom is putting money to work for you instead of you having to work for money.
In order to make your own financial success it will help you greatly to build yourself an affluent mindset, a prosperity consciousness. This means that you can operate successfully and easily in the material world whether you have money or not. This is what a prosperity consciousness does for you.
A simple exercise to identifying work that can be enjoyable and which can sometimes lead to a new self-employed career was shared with me by my friend and mentor Jim Leonard. You simply take a piece of paper and a pen and spend a few minutes writing down your ten favourite pleasures.
An Exercise!
This is the simplest of exercises and yet it can be worth enormous value to you in terms of both fun, and money!
First, write down the ten things you most enjoy doing.
Next, have a look at these ten activities and underline the one which you enjoy most of all - and the one which you are the most willing to receive money for doing!
Now, looking at that same list and at the very favourite activity which you have chosen from among the ten, work out how you can provide a service with that activity. Write down ten ways in which you can receive money from providing this service.
Choose one that you enjoy and have a go at it for a few weeks. Once you have developed money from the idea move onto another manifestation of money with a different idea or service. You will then find it is very easy to produce money when you want it. Once you can produce money at a sufficient rate for your needs, you will begin to develop the ability to create funds flowing in while you are asleep, or when money is the last thing on your mind.
I would ask you to consider this point, that putting time and focus into developing and creating worthwhile work is one of the highest callings you can follow.
by admin | Aug 28, 2022 | Declutter
Your home is alive and existing as energy. You are not separate from your home because it is a part of you. It is a reflection of how you think and feel, just as much as you develop by the way you personally interact with the space that is offered to you. The rooms of your home are a representation of how you think and feel, a reflection of your own energy.
Everything in life is composed of energy, of molecules and tiny atoms clustered together as different forms of 'stuff'. Wood and plastic are different materials, but each composed of a set of compressed atoms. Oak, pine, larch and sycamore are all wood types, albeit with a different composition. They each have their own form of energy and this is what you pick up on when you touch the different things in your home. Add to the physical makeup of each item, the emotional energy attached to every piece of furniture, glassware, DIY tool, or art work, books, clothing and bikes.
If your home is a place of harmony, love, hope and goodness, then it stands to reason that it should first be a place of sanctuary for you. It needs to be a space where you can be relaxed and completely yourself. For this to happen to the best degree possible you need to tailor the space you live to meet your own character, aspirations and to work with and support your own value system. This is where you spend your most relaxed time, where you are private and alone, as well as where you can relax with friends and with loved ones. A home is where you can be at your most vulnerable and most intimate. Here you can be completely true to your best you.
To fulfil so many functions energy moves, shifts, surrounds and connects the spaces within your home. You are sensitive to light, texture, movement, to stillness, to chatter and to music. In a location where you eat, love, bathe, create, worry, aspire and give momentum to ideas and projects, this connecting energy is everything. Distraction, concerns, low energy, sad areas, fluctuating temperatures, and anything which pulls you from living your best life at home will harm those aspirations, slowing down your creative and communicative elements. These sentient or emotional forms of energy will hold you back from the best. Visual distraction, untidy rooms, chaotic kitchens or unclean bedrooms and living rooms all conspire to prevent you living at your best levels of energy.
You cannot have friends round for drinks or a meal if the space for them is not made special, cleaned and tidied. The visual pull of dirty laundry in a guest bathroom, or of dirty and unwashed crockery on a kitchen surface, or of shoes and coats seemingly abandoned on the hall floor - none of this is good energy. Such presentation of your home space is neither uplifting, welcoming or special. Why do you tidy up for guests? Why do you want to create a clean and tidy environment for visitors? Forgive me for stating the obvious, but you put effort in so that the energy of your home is positive, welcoming and active for your visitors. That is just the publicly visible elements of your home and the energy associated with those situations.
Just as obvious is the energy present in your private areas of the home. Wardrobes, or laundry basket, or the drawers where you keep your underwear and handkerchiefs, ties and scarves or mufflers. When you open a drawer and it is a disorganised mess, you feel heavy and fed up, knowing that you now have to hunt around to find two separate socks and make a pair. Instead, if you open that same drawer and every separate sock has been paired correctly with it's other half, or your hankies are folded neatly and lined up behind one another and easy to see, how do you feel now? That sensation of ease you get when you know where everything is, this too is energy presenting itself to you.
There is much less stagnant energy in the drawer or the organised wardrobe. You are helping yourself by lifting the energy in your home. When you are not distracted by mess, clutter or chaos, you have higher energy to be you and to do what you want to do. Faster and with greater focus.
by admin | Aug 19, 2022 | Simple Self Help
Letting life get on top of you to the extent that you are personally, both physically and emotionally, dragged down by it is the beginning of a slippery slope. There are no hard and fast rules as each of us is different in our circumstances. However, it is easy to find yourself living for other people, for someone else's priorities or diary schedule, leaving very little for yourself. You get physically spent and come home at the end of each day, wiped out, exhausted, unable to make a move other than perhaps a grab for a drink and some fast-food and the TV remote control.
Time is just as much a resource as money and yet we still often struggle with the concept of paying ourselves first. Let me explain. When your income comes in each week or each month, if you will first take 10% of the gross amount and pay it into a savings account, before allowing the rest to be spent on the day to day bills, you know with total certainty that you will have one months income set aside in just ten months, two months in twenty months, etc.
You can recognise the sense of making an investment in your future finances starting now. With this being the case it is surely a simpler thing to invest in your own well-being, and to look at you and your own energy levels and see whether they are up and going up higher, or down and falling. But if I ask you to take your calendar and look at the commitments you have given to other people, what have you got in there for yourself? I am willing to bet that you have given so much away that you have little time in there for yourself.
You need to stake a claim for yourself and be in the place that allows you to nurture yourself and see your own growth. This is what I mean by putting yourself first in your diary.
At the start of this coming week, mark out the diary time you want to set aside for yourself and your values. Do this for the hobbies and activities you want to get on with, and on which you have constantly been procrastinating. There is no-one else out there who will value your own time as much as you can, yet you have to seize the moment and set aside that time as special for you. Do not allow someone else to dictate your diary after work hours.
If your work hours are not productive for you, or if the schedule you work is proving to be counter-productive to leading a life of success and happiness, then you have some planning to do and a decision to make about what it is that you truly want your life to look like. When someone wants you to give them an hour of your life and asks that you give away this time for free, be clear with yourself that such a meeting has value and is either inline with your own intended success or is instead an unproductive distraction. Where that person requests an appointment and you have no wish to give your time away, say so, but feel confident about simply saying "I already have a prior engagement" without feeling the need to say what else you are doing.
Start this week and make a planning appointment with yourself. Could you put thirty minutes each day in your diary that is just for you? What about sitting down and blocking out one day each month that is your day? You could binge watch a series, go out with friends, take part in a class. You could do all three in one day. The point here is to give yourself some time for you.
It could well be the beginning of a wonderful new phase in your life where you begin to see and to experience that you are really free to choose to do those things that you love and enjoy. This will bring you so much benefit that you will find doors opening to you and new people coming into your life with every wish for your best.
